How to Avoid Power Struggles With Picky Eaters

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“Picky” can be a useful word to describe a child who eats a limited variety of food. However, it can become problematic when children start to internalise the idea of pickiness. If a child has a fixed mindset that being a picky eater is a part of their identity and is how they are viewed by others, it makes it harder for them to change and start to explore a wider variety of foods.

Modelling and encouraging a growth mindset when it comes to eating can help empower your child, and allow them to accept that what they eat now doesn’t necessarily reflect what they will eat in the future. One of the most common fixed mindset phrases that children use is, “I don’t like that”. Here are some suggestions for rephrasing this into a growth mindset phrase:

  • “I don’t like it yet.”
  • “I’m still learning about it.”
  • “I’m not ready to eat it, but I’ll taste it.”
  • “I’m still deciding if I like it.”
  • “That food is a challenge for me right now.”

Helping your child see that their picky eating does not define them can be an important step in their journey towards a healthy, varied diet.

By Nicola Gregson

Tips to make sure mealtimes are a good experience for families

  1. Make mealtimes calm and relaxed
  • You (as the parent) decide what, when, and where your child eats
  • Your child decides how much they eat, or if they eat at all
  1. Don’t coax or bride your child to eat
  2. Meals should only last up to 30 minutes
  • After this meals can become tasking and often won’t eat more
  1. Eat together as a family
  • Eating as a family promotes good health and wellbeing in children
  • Gives them a chance to see how adults eat, ands encourages them to try new foods
  • Remove distractions such as screens and devices
  1. Offer meals at regular times
  • Children need 3 meals and 2-3 snacks in between per day, with water or milk in between
  • Don’t offer extra snacks in between – they stop children eating well during their main meals and can be low in nutrition
  • By having food available at regular times, children can learn to listen to their hunger cues
  1. Let your child be messy when they eat
  • Wait until the end of their meal before you clean hands and face
  1. Offer a variety of foods that have different tastes, colours, and textures
  • You can let your child feed themselves through finger foods, appropriate for their age
  • Also give them a fork and/or spoon
  • You can let them choose parts of the meal from two options
  1. Be mindful about how you talk about different foods
  • Children will eat what is familiar and tasty
  • Try not to label food as “good” or “bad”, “treats” or “junk”
  1. If your child starts turning away, shaking their head or closing their mouth, it means they are full and the meal is at an end
  2. Don’t give up if your child does not want to eat a new food
  • When offering new foods, try introducing them with a combination of food they are familiar with
  • Make sure the child sees you trying new foods
  • It can take 20 or 30 tries to get them to eat new foods
  • Keep offering and stay patient
  1. Rejecting food is a normal developmental behaviour
  2. You do not need to meet all their nutritional needs today
  • Think about meeting their needs over the week

 

Adapted by: Lively Eaters

Source used: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdOmq8SGfrU (Rachel Lindeback)

A family asked me the other day if aspiration and dysphagia were similar and it got me thinking that as speech pathologists we often use terms that are as familiar to us as the clothes we wear or the foods we eat and we, at times, might forget to explain the nuances of what some of these terms mean. I thought I would write down some explanations to help if families are finding these terms hard to understand.

The following is borrowed from a fact sheet by Speech Pathology Australia and helps explain how swallowing works:

The swallowing system is a tube in which a series of pumps and valves move food and drink from the mouth to the stomach. In the throat, the tube branches in two directions; down one, the food and drinks pass into the oesophagus on their way to the stomach, while the other branches off to the voice box and lungs and is used for breathing. With each swallow we hold our breath for around one second to make sure the food or drink travels down the correct tube to the stomach rather than the lungs. Swallowing uses 26 muscles and many nerves to coordinate the split second timing needed to safely swallow and mistimed movements can lead to food or drink ‘going down the wrong way’’.

Dysphagia is an umbrella term for any swallowing difficulty that may occur at any stage of the process from holding food/drink in our mouth, chewing our food and preparing it for swallowing, sucking or drinking, through moving the food/fluid from our mouth down our throat to the stomach, or protecting our lungs from food “going down the wrong way”.

Dysphagia can occur at any stage of life from birth to adulthood and can have a short term impact or be life long. Often signs such as coughing, gagging or choking are the first signs we see that someone may be experiencing swallowing difficulties and most adults and children have experienced these at some stage when they have been distracted at mealtimes, not sitting still, talking or doing something else that makes it more difficult to eat and drink safely.

Sometimes people with dysphagia can have food or drink enter the top of their airway at the level of their larynx, which is also known as the voicebox, the front of this is more visible in men as the “Adam’s apple”. This is called laryngeal penetration. When this occurs, we often see coughing as the body attempts to eject the food/drink from the airway.

Aspiration is the term we use to refer to food/drink moving below the level of the vocal cords (which speechies will refer to as vocal folds) into the lower airway. Aspiration can lead to further medical difficulties such as aspiration pneumonia.

At times, penetration and aspiration can be “silent”, meaning there is no outward sign such as coughing to indicate that anything has entered the airway. At these times, the term silent aspiration is used to describe this.

Choking occurs when food or another object completely blocks the airway preventing the ability to breathe.

If you have ever had a speech pathologist use a stethoscope to listen to your child’s swallow, you would have seen them place the stethoscope on the side of your child’s neck under their chin, or sometimes on the cheek of a small baby. This is called cervical auscultation and is a tool that speech pathologists use to give us additional clues as to whether food or drink may be entering the airway. We are listening for swallow sounds, coordination of swallow and breathing, and any changes in breathing before, during or after the swallow. We can make some well educated guesses from these sounds as to whether there is food or fluid entering the airway, however, we cannot definitively determine whether this is penetration or aspiration and how far down the airway food or fluid may have gone. If we have concerns, we may discuss referral for further assessment with your doctor.

If you have any concerns regarding your child’s ability to swallow or want to understand any of these things better, please chat with your Lively Eaters’ speechie.

Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID) was formally recognised as a diagnosable mental health disorder within the past ten years and was previously known as “selective eating disorder”. ARFID is an eating challenge which may present as an apparent lack of interest in eating or food, an avoidance of food based on the sensory characteristics of food or a concern about unwanted consequences of eating (e.g., choking or being sick). Individuals may experience just one or all of those characteristics of ARFID.

An individual with a diagnosis of ARFID does not meet their nutritional needs with their safe range of foods and may experience weight loss, significant nutritional deficiencies, dependence on enteral feeding or have altered psychosocial functioning. A major difference between ARFID and other eating disorders, is that an individual’s diet is not influenced by their body weight or shape (such as anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa).

Supporting an individual with ARFID using a multidisciplinary approach is extremely important to ensure their health is not compromised. At Lively Eaters, our team of multidisciplinary therapists have experience and knowledge in working with children and young people with ARFID. Liaising with clinicians in other care settings such as General Practitioners, Psychologists, Psychiatrists, Occupational Therapists, Behaviour Therapists and more, might be appropriate to provide adequate care for the individual. Setting clear goals with our clients assists in managing ARFID and ensuring that our support is client centred and functional for each person.

Many parents ask us if their child meets the diagnostic criteria of ARFID. If it is applicable for the child and family, we can provide advice as to how to have this assessed by a Psychologist or Psychiatrist. Many children and young people that Lively Eaters support do not have a diagnosis of ARFID, but this does not change our approach in their care. We will always listen to the needs of the family to overcome their feeding challenges.

If you have concerns about your child’s eating behaviours, please follow the prompts on the “Contact Us” page of our website.

Sensory processing is the ability to organise and interpret information received through the senses. There are 5 commonly known senses – taste, vision, touch, smell and sound. There are also 2 lesser- known sensory systems – the proprioceptive system and the vestibular system. The proprioceptive system receives information from muscles, joints and tendons and the vestibular system receives information regarding the body’s position in space, for example balance.

We all have different neurological thresholds for each sensory input. A neurological threshold is the amount of sensory stimuli required for a neuron or neuron system to respond. It can be helpful to think of neurological thresholds as cups – some of us have big cups and some of us have small cups. In other words, some people needs lots of sensory input while others don’t need much at all. When a person’s cup is full, they will have a behavioural response. These can either be active or passive. Using auditory input as an example a person’s cup may become full in a very loud room, an active behavioural response would be to leave the room, while a passive response would be to continue to sit in the room. People with passive behavioural responses can often become dysregulated as their cups can often overflow with sensory input.

There are 4 sensory processing quadrants in which all people land:

Low registration
People in the low registration quadrant have high neurological thresholds (big cups). They also display passive behavioural responses. They can often miss sensory information that other people pick up on. An example of this might be a child who doesn’t smell things that other people say they smell.

Sensation Seeking
People in the sensory seeking quadrant again have high neurological thresholds. Different to people in the low registration quadrant though they have active behavioural responses. Due to their high threshold, they are often seeking input to ‘fill their cup.’ Examples of children who are sensory seeking include children who are very active or children who add spice to their food.

Sensory Sensitive
People in the sensory sensitive quadrant have low neurological thresholds (small cups). Like people in the low registration quadrant, they also have passive behavioural strategies. Children who are sensory sensitive often continually detect sensory input and may often hear or smell things that other people can’t.

Sensory Avoiding
People in the sensory avoiding quadrant have low neurological thresholds and active behavioural responses. It does not take much to fill their cup up and when it is they will often withdraw from the situation. Children within this quadrant often withdraw from overwhelming sensory input and may only eat familiar foods.

 

Will Liebing – Occupational Therapist

Image source: Ciro, Carrie. “Dunn’s Model of Sensory Processing”. MedBridge. 2022. https://www.medbridgeeducation.com/course-catalog/details/dementia-therapists-guide-to-behavioral-management/

Teletherapy
In the current climate, there may be barriers to attending your child’s therapy session in the Centre for reasons such as being unwell or in quarantine. Would you like to avoid cancellation fees and keep the continuity of therapy going? Your child’s appointment can be carried out via telehealth. The prospect of an online session for your little one can be daunting but hear us out! There are a number of advantages to a telehealth session, and they often go a lot smoother than you expect.
Here are just some of the ways your therapist can support you via these platforms:
● You can inform your therapist and celebrate progress or successes experienced at home.
● Discussion regarding current challenges you may be experiencing at home and provision of new strategies to try. This can occur out of ‘ear shot’ of your child so they can’t hear the discussion about them – children are very sensitive and attuned to what adults are saying about them
● Dietetic review or discussing meal plans with your child’s Lively Eaters dietitian.
● Review previous goals and set new goals for the upcoming period.
● Provide video footage of a typical mealtime for the therapist to review and provide feedback on changes or challenges they can observe within the home setting. A picture tells a thousand words.
This may be a good opportunity to have the time (a full session!) to discuss the above matters with your child’s therapist one on one.
If your child is able to engage in therapy via telehealth:
● Cooking sessions: Your therapist will plan the recipe ahead of time, send it to you so you can be prepared with the ingredients to cook together on screen!
● Oral motor exercises: These can be fun via telehealth! Children tend to enjoy watching themselves in the video and this can be motivating to get some practice in.
Many children enjoy engaging in telehealth sessions from the comfort of their own home. For some, they feel more relaxed and enjoy the opportunity to share some of their home life with their therapist.
Setting up your space for Telehealth:
– Choose a quiet, private space: A quiet space, away from the distractions of tv and toys. Let the rest of the family know when the session will be happening, this may mean setting siblings up with activities. Don’t worry, we love visits from the rest of the family, and understand it may be tricky to keep other little ones engaged whilst the session goes ahead.
– Lighting: It is best to have a light source in front of you so your therapist can see you well. Facing a window or having a lamp on in front of you will do the job.
– Get the camera angle right: If we are cooking together, it is best if the camera is a little further away so we can see your faces as well as your bench top!
– Check your microphone settings before the session starts.
– It is best if you use a computer/laptop/tablet rather than a mobile phone for telehealth sessions, particularly if your little one is involved.
Planning ahead for telehealth can make a big difference!
If you would like further information regarding telehealth or phone call appointments, please call the Centre on (08) 7226 6395 or email info@livelyeaters.com.au

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